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Open Your Heart


"Grief is a matter of the heart and soul. Grieve your loss, allow it in, and spend time with it. Suffering is optional. Love never dies, and spirit knows no loss. Keep in mind that a broken heart is an open heart."

Louise Hay & David Kessler

Sometimes we feel helpless defending ourselves against the cramping of the heart, even years after a loss. Our shoulders become heavy, and a dull ache defines our body, our necks stiffen, and our gait increasingly shortens.

In an attempt to overcome the feeling of having no control, the mind attempts to assert whatever power it hopes will hide the fear and sense of profound aloneness.

Once we open our hearts to our pain and to our hopelessness, we find that we are never truly helpless.

I am not suggesting that our grief will completely go away, but rather it can come to rest in the open heart. Memories may always be bittersweet. Healing then becomes not the absence of pain but the increased ability to meet it with mercy and support. Letting go is truly letting be.

As a result, we find ourselves exploring our capacity to slowly increase that space of hurt and pain to allow speech to meet helplessness, with simple kindness, confusion with openheartedness and support. And most importantly we find ourselves.

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