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Moving Forward, not On


“Life determines the plot, but you write the story.”

I recently noticed a very powerful quote: “Put closure to the word Closure!” Closure shuts doors to our life’s history. Closure implies let’s forget. Closure may state… nothing really happened.
What we want to recognize is that something very significant happened to us. Experiencing a loss is traumatic and has interrupted your life and most likely the life of those that are closest and dearest to you. This takes time to process and heal. Moving forward means allowing this experience to take some space in your life, integrating it into your story, and then deciding how to move forward in a way that is congruent with creating the story you want to build.
Resilience comes from deep within us and supports the outside of us. It comes from gratitude for what’s good in our lives and from leaning into what has occurred now. It comes from analyzing how we process grief and from simply accepting that grief.
We need to recognize that:
Your relationship with this pregnancy is personal. Allow that to be just that. Yours.
The process takes time. Anticipate a shifting process of changes in thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
When we allow ourselves to find meaning in our suffering, it does not necessarily mean that we understand what is happening, but that we are shifting to a small step forward. We will never forget about the baby that was lost now.
And finally, sometimes we have less control over our thoughts than we think. Other times we have more. What I have learnt is that when one experiences a trauma or loss, with time we can find the strength to kick against the bottom, break away from its surface, and come up to breathe once again.

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