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I Am More Vulnerable Than
I Thought

I Am More Vulnerable Than I Thought

I am more vulnerable than I thought, but much stronger than I ever imagined.

Sheryl Sandberg

We can discover inside ourselves, as we survive the challenge of experiencing a loss, the power of being able to say I am, in every moment, capable of mustering the strength to survive, and I can tap into my strengths in other good, productive, healthy ways.”

One of the most challenging aspects of life after a miscarriage is the set of expectations, we hold regarding how we “should” be responding.

No matter where you are at in your journey – please remember there is no “good” or “right” way to respond following this loss. There is no correct way to cope or an appropriate amount of pain you should feel after a pregnancy loss.

The more we try to fight difficult feelings, the more they smother us. It is much like falling into quicksand – the more you struggle, the more you sink. Instead, what if we allowed ourselves to turn off that struggle switch and let our uncomfortable emotions just be there? To just float on the surface without fighting them and without justifying them.

If we are able to turn our struggle switch off, then our emotions are free to move, we don’t waste time or energy fighting against them, and we don’t generate any more pain than that which we are already facing.

As a well-known psychotherapist and author Carl Rogers stated, “The curious paradox is that what when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change”.

It is with these thoughts that one can then begin to move forward.

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