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Allowing Ourselves to Love


Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love.

It’s all the love you want to give but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.

Jamie Anderson

When I speak about grief, I like to remind ourselves that by allowing ourselves to grieve, we allow ourselves to love.
By bypassing grief, when we disconnect from our grief, we disconnect from ourselves. When we disconnect from ourselves, we disconnect from others and from the natural world. And by trying to circumvent suffering, we magnify it.
There are two types of suffering.
1. The suffering we run from because we are unwilling to face the truth of life.
2. The suffering that comes when we’re willing to stop running from the sorrows, losses and difficulties of the world.
Facing our experiences, allowing ourselves to process the grief, empowers us to be able to love and perhaps one day move forward.

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